Is your ideal partner realistic — or a fantasy?
Find out what percentage of the population actually meets your dating standards, using real U.S. demographic data instead of a guess.
Four inputs, one honest number
Pick who you're looking for
Choose men or women — the calculator switches to that population's actual demographics.
Set your real standards
Age, height, and income ranges, plus optional filters for ethnicity, marital status, and weight.
See the honest percentage
We combine your filters against age-stratified population data — not a flat guess.
Recalibrate if you want to
See exactly which filter is shrinking your pool the most, and adjust from there.
Most “delusion calculators” multiply numbers that don’t multiply cleanly
Treating income, age, and marital status as independent overstates how rare a combination really is — income and age move together, and so does the odds someone’s still single. Our model stratifies by age first, then applies income, marital-status, and weight filters conditional on that age band, so a 45-year age range doesn’t get penalized as if it were one flat coin-flip repeated four times.
Read the full methodologyThe same tool runs the numbers for men’s standards and women’s standards — see both on the full calculator.
Every calculation runs client-side. We don’t store or transmit the standards you enter — see our privacy policy.
Ready to check your own standards?
The full calculator adds ethnicity, marital status, and weight filters, plus a breakdown of which one is doing the most work.